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What do you talk about on a date?
This is a natural concern for many people. Most social interactions are relatively short. But, a date traditionally occupies an entire evening! What on earth am I going to talk about for all that time? Fortunately, it's easier than you may think. For one thing, a date is usually centered around some sort of activity, such as going to a dance, or to see a film. This solves most of the issues for you. Throughout a film, you don't need to talk much about anything, and afterwards, the recently shared experience of the film serves as a topic of conversation. So the problem of conversation becomes relatively simple. Making your first date relatively short and centered around an activity of some sort will do a lot to calm your nerves.
Much of your conversation will be based upon you and your date's initial meeting. You already know something about your date, so this makes conversation much easier; you simply base your conversation on what you already know about him or her. Ask about a project of the other person that came out during the previous conversation. Ask about a problem he or she was trying to get resolved. If you've ascertained the other person's interests, you can even do some reading up on those interests before the next date so you can impress your partner with your knowledge of his or her interests! Jobs or occupations are always an excellent subject for conversation, and can provide an endless supply of topics. Following are some additional tips for keeping the conversation going
(These tips can apply to other social situations as well): Discuss events in the news
Maybe the other person isn't real up on current events. But there's an easy way to find out. When the other person says something that reminds you of something you read or heard on the news, use this natural tie-in and see if it gets a good reaction. If the other person isn't up on current events, he or she may really be into celebrity news or pop culture. So, why not check out feature articles in newspapers and magazines before you go on the next date. Talk about the situation that brought you together
The way of introduced, or the place where the two of you met is a perfectly natural topic of conversation. Talk about the present situation. - That salad looks delicious. What's in it?
- Look at all the cyclists out today! Do you enjoy riding yourself?
- I'm really looking forward to that movie tonight. Have you caught any of Arnold Schwarzenegger's previous films?
Just as important in knowing how to win a date is knowing exactly what it is that you want from a date. Is dating for you a prelude to marriage? If so, when? Is it soon or Is it somewhere far off in the future? Or maybe you view dating as simply an enjoyable way to spend an evening. You might even wish to remain single--at least for the foreseeable future. In either case, to what degree do you think sexual relations should enter the picture? What are your moral, religious and philosophical beliefs about such matters? No answer is necessarily wrong.
Some people think that dating is merely for winning sexual gratification, a belief that is incorrect, but widespread. It is possible for a man and a woman to enjoy each other's company with or without considering either sexual relations or marriage, but in this case their relationship will eventually be termed a "friendship" rather than a "romance." In any event, it is important that you have a clear idea of where you stand on these issues when you begin dating. Choosing as future dates those who have compatible goals and desires can save the two of you much misunderstanding and disappointment later on. |
